A Radical forgiveness question, please help:-

Thanks bhaiya and Rupali for explaining so beautifully

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Beautiful explanation indranilda and rupalidi... Clears lots of my doubt ...

Wow Rupali n bhayya so nice of u two for ur kind explanations. Full revision hogaya n all the best lipika...u can do it n lots of blessings to ur didi

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Thankyou Indranil and Rupali! Very well explained. So this means i too alongwith my sister have some unsettled karmic loan with them.Yes i'm empowering my sister ,financially she's strong but emotionally mentally weak. everyday i keep empowering her and myself too. But rupali didn't understand the phrase"" Karmic loan can be settled in few ways.You can chant 16 rounds and donate that karma to them or by healing your karmic loan can get settled quicker, also by blessing and forgiveness "" so i donate that karma to who those people who are hurting or to my sister? Rest everything i'll do as you said. i feel powerful and optimistic most of the time but sometime of the day again the sense of fear and worry of how things will happen/settle looms around ...is it because i have to grow spiritually more strong or that's how human bodies are by default?

Very well answered Indranil. Lipika I would add few points to it. In the book Radical forgiveness it's mentioned that if we are aware of a situation this means that the universe wants us to intervene. Have you intervened? If you have read my article about forgiveness you will find a term Outer forgiveness. Have you done it? Have you empowered your sister? Due to karmic account settlement one has to suffer that is true. But one has to try all means to get out of the situation or to improve the situation. You should empower your sister to become financially strong and then help her to become emotionally strong as well. Once she is both financially and emotionally strong she can choose to fight back. Always remember the one who tolerates wrong doings encourages wrong doings too. We have to be kind, polite and we cannot hate anyone. But we cannot become doormats. Spiritual people are powerful people. So you as a sister has to first become emotionally and financially strong yourself and then help your sister for the same. If things become unbearable and she has tried all spiritual tools then she can get separated and live her own life. Every person has a right to be happy and peaceful. You can also ask her to learn till level 3 healing and do psychotherapy for her family members. Psychotherapy will remove the stress and unwanted energies from the aura of her family members and will help them get divine guidance. Once they start getting divine guidance there is a chance that they may improve. You can also learn it and do relationship healing for them. But best is to empower her in every way. She has a karmic account with them and so do you. Since you are getting affected, this means you have too. Karmic loan can be settled in few ways.You can chant 16 rounds and donate that karma to them or by healing your karmic loan can get settled quicker, also by blessing and forgiveness. But forgiveness has to be complete and genuine from the heart. Read my article on forgiveness and ask if u have further doubts. Ask your sister to hear my audios ...add her in our group so that she gets group blessings. I bless all the members of our group after meditation. Let me know if you have further questions. May God bless you.

This is a very good and appropriate question. We all face such a situation in our lives when our loved ones get hurt by someone else and we feel their pain but are unable to do anything about it.

Now before we come to the actual answer, there are few things that we need to accept and consider. Just close your eyes and realize that we are all souls and we all have our own journey based on the past & present karma that we have acquired for several births. Now, the pain that we feel for our loved ones is very natural but then as we are in the Spiritual path & we must consider the fact that our loved ones are also souls with their individual karma and therefore are in a certain situation. Also, we feel they are in pain as the situation is not “as per our convenience”. But as we always hear in Rupali’s lecture, “idhaar kisi ke sath kuch bura hotaa hi nehi”, hence they are in a situation for a broader reason, that could either be clearing of their past karma (they might have given the same pain to someone else) or it could also be a situation that they had chosen so that they overcome their shortcoming and grow Spiritually out of this problem.

Now the main question is what you could do? To keep getting hurt and staying in an unsettled state of mind is not good at all, especially when we are in the Spiritual path. And at the same time, you will not be able to change anyone in the world as the change has to be in us. So, first try to detach yourself from your sister, parents because only then can you help them better. Secondly, you being in Spiritual path, you have the strong tools with you that can “empower” your loved ones (sister, parents) so that they are mentally and emotionally strong and fit to face their own problem/battle. Maybe this whole scenario will eventually make your loved ones strong enough to deal with the current state and come out of it themselves. Remember, like we heard in Rupali’s lecture – if a soul is entitled to 5 punches (due to their past/present karma) then they need to face those 5 punches – no power on this Universe can stop it. But then, if they are NOT entitled for the 6th punch, then nothing in this Universe will be able to touch them. And most important part is that during these 5 punches – it’s only the spiritual practices in their life that could keep them up and going through the pain, make them emotionally and mentally strong and build good karma.

Before I finish, there is a short story that I would like to narrate. In a recent episode of the popular hindi TV serial “KarmaPhal Data Shaani”. It so happened that Shaani dev was to face his worst & most powerful enemy, Neelima (his counter-energy). The Trinity (Tridev, Lord Vishnu, Lord Shiva and Lord Brahma) were watching this and Lord Vishnu said to Lord Shiva, don’t you want to help Shaani as you can see he will be going though a very painful and inconvenient situation. Then Lord Shiva replied, “No, I don’t want to help him directly in this difficult situation because if I do, then he will not be strong enough to face furthermore difficult situations that will definitely arise in his life”. This was so inspiring – meaning God puts us at times in such tricky situations because he wants us to experience it (like Rupali says, “Kichaar me ghus ke hi hum sikh sakte hai, Kamal jeyse khel sakte hai”), just like a caterpillar has to go through it’s stages to evolve as a strong and beautiful butterfly.

Hi Dear Indranil would like to attempt answering your question first. I will add to his answer :)